Fat. Husky, portly, "of size", I've been called (either directly or indirectly) any number of words like these my whole life. These clever inventions of our language to avoid an uncomfortable moment have followed me around like a shadow since I was old enough to remember. I've heard it from friends, from doctors, whispered by children at my son's school, in the hallways at work, from girlfriends, from complete strangers who know how to "fix me". I've broken chairs, had to leave airplanes, been too big for bathrooms and bus seats, had to stand during concerts and movies (because I didn't fit in the seat) and have even gotten into a few fistfights, just because I was too fat. When people see me for the first time, I'm usually met with a combination of shock, contempt, concern and sympathy, but mostly: curiosity. When all pretense is removed, people just genuinely want to know two things:
- How did you get that way?
- Why aren't you doing anything to "fix" it?
- Food. Wonderful, delicious, sustainable, responsibly grown, humanely raised and thoughtfully prepared food. My experiences with making it, growing it, and seeing it created.
- Activism. I'm becoming more and more inspired by the amazing work people are doing, and I want to help. I'm starting small by backing Kickstarter projects and getting more selective with my donations, but I'm on my way to making this a big part of my life.
- Life. I know that's broad but it'll be my experiences as a father, a husband and a man that takes up more space than a normal person should. It's funny, but sometimes sad, but it's all filtered through my unique point of view.
- Technology. But not just "hey this is a cool new gadget". More like the companies and individuals that are expanding the way we do things and seeking to integrate technology with life in a symbiotic way.
- Weight Loss. This is not the story of "my weight loss journey", although I'll probably talk about that, it's not the focus, it's the byproduct (see above). I'm not going to be telling you "I lost XX pounds, here's what I did." with recipes and exercise plans to follow. There a million blogs like that, keep looking and you'll find the one you like.
- Fat Pride. I am not here to extoll the "I'm fat and proud." or "Awesome comes in any shape." philosophy. I do, however, want people to stop equating large with unhealthy. They are mutually exclusive and it is not a foregone conclusion that fat people are dying nor are they trying to stay fat.